She hopes he will find “another love story”
A terminally ill author has written a dating profile for her husband of 26 years in a column in the New York Times.
The moving piece, entitled “You May Want to Marry My Husband” looks to her husband’s future without her. She hopes that he will find love again after her death, assuring readers that:
“He is an easy man to fall in love with. I did it in one day.”
Memoir and children’s author, Amy Krouse Rosenthal, was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in September 2015. She is now nearing the end of her life.
With dry, gallows humour she wrote about her pressing deadline: “I need to say this (and say it right) while I have a) your attention, and b) a pulse.”
The heartfelt essay is an ode to her husband Jason, whom she met when she was just 24 years old. She told readers, “I have never been on Tinder, Bumble or eHarmony. But I’m going to create a general profile for Jason right here, based on my experience of co-existing in the same house with him for, like, 9,490 days.”
It is with deep affection that the mother of three recalls their first date in 1989. A mutual friend set them up on a blind date, after which Amy knew she had found love.
“By the end of dinner, I knew I wanted to marry him.”
The author continued on to share Jason’s best qualities with her readers, effectively building him a dating profile. She started with a physical description:
“He is 5-foot-10, 160 pounds, with salt-and-pepper hair and hazel eyes.”
She then goes on to applaud his dress sense, his cooking skills and his love of live music. She declared him an artist, a wonderful father and a thoughtful, compassionate man.
The kind of man who “showed up at our first pregnancy ultrasounds with flowers.”
“[And] surprises me every Sunday morning by making some kind of oddball smiley face out of items near the coffeepot: a spoon, a mug, a banana.”
“If he sounds like a prince and our relationship seems like a fairy tale, it’s not too far off,” she wrote.
She encouraged readers to swipe right if they are “looking for a dreamy, let’s-go-for-it travel companion” and also lamented the fact that she doesn’t have more time with him.
Amy also explained her recent tattoo of the word “more” on her arm. It was a suggestion from one of her readers, 62-year-old Paulette, who got a matching tattoo. It was inspired by a section of her memoir, which revealed that her first word was “more”.
In “You May Want To Marry My Husband”, Amy speculates whether it will be her last word. All she wants is “more time with Jason. I want more time with my children.”
The emotional letter and Amy’s selfless, dying wish that “the right person reads this, finds Jason, and another love story begins” has captured the hearts and attention of readers worldwide.
Words: Annie Simon